Marriage is often portrayed in movies, songs, and literature as a perfect fairy tale where love is effortlessly and conquers all obstacles. However, anyone who has journeyed through marriage knows that the reality can be far more complex and challenging. The wide expanse between expectation and reality can leave couples feeling disconnected and questioning the very foundation of their relationship. In this post, we will explore insights that focus on how to overcome hurdles in the way we do marriage and deepening true love with our spouse.
Many years ago, the founder of Christian Family Life, Don Meredith had a question, “God, you created marriage; Can you make it work?”. This question serves as a catalyst for reflection and growth. As we dig deeper into God’s original intent for marriage, the question evolves into a powerful affirmation: “God, you created marriage; you can make it work.” This foundation is crucial as it invites couples to place their faith in God’s plan and trust that He is capable of healing, sustaining and fulfilling their relationship.
Many couples have said, “I’ve fallen out of love” or “I don’t feel connected to my spouse anymore.” Although we don’t want to discount how we feel, we just want to make sure we don’t base our actions solely on them. Emphasizing that sustaining marriage requires intentional effort, commitment, and adherence to biblical principles rather than relying on fluctuating emotions.
What we teach and believe about marriage revolves around moving from a performance-based mindset to a faith-driven approach. Many couples feel pressured to meet certain standards, but the focus should instead be on the commitments made before God in our vow and with God as we walk with Him. This shift encourages open communication, regular assessments of the relationship, and finding ways to foster a deeper connection rooted in trust and love. It brings a deep focused priority on our spouse and the relationship we have with them.
It helps remind us that love is not merely a feeling; it is an intentional choice that requires daily effort. Couples are encouraged to choose kindness, understanding, and love even on days when feelings may not align. Marriage demands a focus that cannot be misplaced. Purposing to prioritize this commitment to each other. This intentionality can play a vital role in keeping the marital bond strong.
It is important to be aware of external influences that can affect marriages. Cultural messages, societal pressures, and negative thoughts can create barriers in a relationship. We need to recognize these influences and learn to combat them with God’s truth. Understanding what God says about marriage and what He intends to fulfill through it.
We need to learn to filter our thoughts through scripture, embracing a perspective that is rooted in faith. This not only strengthens personal well-being but also fosters a healthier dynamic between spouses. Which in turn, enhances other relationships. The battle with self-doubt and insecurity is real, but leaning on God and each other can help you navigate these challenges.
Marriage isn’t without its challenges, but these moments of discord should not be viewed solely as setbacks. Instead, they can serve as opportunities for growth and deeper understanding. While conflicts are a natural part of partnership, they can result in increased closeness and connection if navigated with love and understanding. Resolving conflict and walking through trials together in a healthy manner brings a greater level of intimacy.
Take time to reflect on your relationship, regardless of its current state. Whether facing challenges or enjoying harmony, it’s essential to focus on the fundamentals: get to know each other again, cultivate trust, rely on one another, and recommit to your shared covenant. It may even be time to recommit yourselves to each other in your own private ceremony before God.
The ultimate message is clear: with God at the center, marriages can thrive. 2 Corinthians 4:17, “For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison”tells us that maintaining an eternal perspective can help couples weather even the toughest storms. It also tells us that there is purpose in the pain. It goes on to say that if we handle it appropriately, we will receive a fullness surpassing all comparisons, an endless blessing!
“God created marriage; He can make it work.” This powerful reminder reinforces the idea that God’s design for partnership is both beautiful and attainable through faith, intentionality, and love. It is not only attainable, but can bring fulfillment, joy and peace to your lives.
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